My mysqld processes are running at about 80MB each.
My settings:
[mysqld]
datadir = /home/mySQL
socket = /home/mySQL/mysql.sock
skip-locking
set-variable = max_connections=200
set-variable = key_buffer=64M
set-variable = myisam_sort_buffer_size=64M
set-variable = join_buffer=1M
set-variable = record_buffer=1M
set-variable = sort_buffer=4M
set-variable = table_cache=1024
set-variable = thread_cache_size=512
set-variable = wait_timeout=9600
set-variable = connect_timeout=10
set-variable = max_allowed_packet=16M
set-variable = max_connect_errors=10
# Try number of CPU's*2 for thread_concurrency
set-variable = thread_concurrency=2
[mysql.server]
user=mysql
basedir=/var/lib
[safe_mysqld]
err-log=/var/log/mysqld.log
pid-file=/var/run/mysqld/mysqld.pid
open-files-limit=8192
[mysqlhotcopy]
interactive-timeout
[mysqldump]
quick
set-variable = max_allowed_packet=16M
[myisamchk]
set-variable = key_buffer=64M
set-variable = sort_buffer=64M
set-variable = read_buffer=16M
set-variable = write_buffer=16M
I run an average over just over 1,000 queries per minute over a 6 month period with some large peaks (over 6,000 q/m).
mysql-3.23.54a-3.72